(Written after she found out she was dying from cancer).
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day. I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more. I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded. I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace. I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband. I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed. I would have sat on the lawn! With my grass stains. I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life. I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle. When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.' There would have been more 'I love you's'; more 'I'm sorry's.' But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it... live it and never give it back. STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!! Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what Instead; let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. Let's think about what God HAS blessed us with, and what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally. I hope you have a blessed day.
This was sent to me today by one of my aunts. And I needed to read something like this. Then I thought to myself that if I needed it, then maybe one of my friends could use it as well right now. Yes, I am faced with some very difficult decisions in my life right now, but do you know what? I had better enjoy the warmth of the sun on my face, the smell of my son's hair and the sound of my daughter singing to herself as she brushes her hair, in between those decisions. Time to WAKE UP, Cyndi!
Life continues. We get up, we go to work, we come home, we go to sleep. We do it again the next day and the next. Sometimes it's easier. Sometimes it's harder. Sometimes it's fabulous. Sometimes is sorrowful. And sometimes, it's just what we need to lead us forward. Because there truly is no going back. ~~Kate Walker
I am tired. I am having a hard time caring about anything. I don’t care much about my marriage. I don’t care much whether my house is clean. I don’t care much about sleep, about work, about much of anything.
I force myself to connect with a few of you here, though one of you in particular I do have my worries for. But in truth, being here is a chore. I am having a hard time connecting with my own life, let alone with you.
Is it this endless winter with it’s endless cold, endless snow and rain, endless clouds?
Is it my age, my body, the changes it is undergoing?
Is it my grief?
I don’t know and I don’t have the energy to figure it out. I only have enough care for my children and my mother right now.
glitter-graphics.com I drive every day. It is something most of us do. We drive to the grocery store, to the school to pick up our children, to go to dinner and a movie, to work. I drive just over 49 miles each way on my daily commute. The first 9 miles is driven on a two-lane state road with two traffic lights along the stretch. The next 39 miles takes me West on Interstate 80/90. The final four miles bumps along another two-lane state road pockmarked with dozens and dozens of potholes and broken up by 6 more traffic lights, then ends with 6 lanes and a left hand turn into the parking lot of the mall where I work inside.
The commute is generally boring. I start it by tuning in my local NPR station on the car stereo and waiting in my driveway for a red car, a semi truck, a white car, a black truck, an Amish buggy then maybe another red car before I can back out. At this time of the year there is not much scenery to interest me on the nine mile length of road. Just dirty snow at the roadside deposited by our considerate snow plow drivers, a mailbox or two listing to the side - another gift from our snow plow drivers, bare trees and my windshield wipers slapping back and forth in a vain effort to clean the road muck that keeps splashing back from the driver ahead of me who insists upon driving 40 miles per hour in a 55 mph zone.
The second, and longest, stretch gives me a four lane interstate, 70 mph speed limit which I drive at 75, cars, trucks, semis. I count how many UPS trucks, Fed Ex trucks, Con-Way trucks I pass by. I count the license plates from various states. I count how many times I see vehicles - red, then white, then blue. I see fields of the brown skeletal remains of last summer’s corn stalks. I see RV factories. I see broken guard rails left over from drivers who are convinced that their cars and trucks can handle the patches of black ice that are spread out along the flat stretch of road. Today I followed a silver Dodge Caravan from Illinois. I could see two adults in the front seat and two children waving their arms in back. Were they on their way home after the funeral of a loved one? Getting a late start home after a week end wedding? Coming home from a trip East to look for a new home in a new town? We passed semi trucks together, slowed together as we saw a state trooper playing hide and seek in the median, the family no doubt anticipating the return home; me bored enough to make up an imaginary life for them complete with joy, heartache and a dog waiting at the kennel. They left me at the visitor plaza, maybe for a Starbucks, maybe to fuel up on a bit of Burger King. Back to counting cars…
The final stretch. Four miles dodging potholes my car is already intimately familiar with and getting acquainting with newly formed craters which may have formed during the sub-zero temps of the wee early morning, or even just 5 minutes ago when a Frito truck jarred the road by precisely .00005 degrees. The traffic lights are timed so that five of the six will be red by the time I bump and rattle my way to each.
The parking lot: In the morning a scattering of cars, slowly cooling, litters the parking lot as their owners walk lap after lap in the mall concourse. The afternoon commute brings two or three trips through the lot in search of the elusive "fabled parking space".
After eight or nine hours it is time to reverse the trip: Stop at five of six traffic lights, dodge the same potholes and an additional five, count more cars, no silver Caravan to share my ride East, just aching feet that I yearn to stretch out. If it is a late trip home, no one will be on the final nine mile length of road but me and a few rabbits or a possum.
Finally, a sigh of relief as I turn the key and shut off the car engine. I look through the window to see my daughter smiling at me and our white cat standing on her hind feet, stretching, meowing “Hello” to me. Wishing I did not have to make the commute again tomorrow morning, knowing that I have to. Two hours of my life each day, spent with NPR and strangers whose faces I will never see.
Alice came to a fork in the road. "Which road do I take?" she asked. "Where do you want to go?" responded the Cheshire cat. "I don't know," Alice answered. "Then," said the cat, "it doesn't matter." ~Lewis Carroll