Deu 10:20 Thou shalt fear the LORD thy God; him shalt thou serve, and to him shalt thou cleave, and swear by his name.

1 Cor 6:17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

1 Cor 2:16 for who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ.

A soul tie is the knitting together of two souls that can either bring tremendous blessings in a Godly relationship or tremendous destruction when made with the wrong persons.
A soul tie in the Bible can be described not only by the word knit, but also by the word cleave, which means to bring close together, follow close after, be attached to someone, or adhere to one another as with glue.

Before you start studying the articles on Soul Ties I want to encourage you and say that all the information you read and study on this, please take it to the Lord and ask Him to reveal to you how this applies to your life and to reveal the soul ties that are binding you.

If you are always bitter, angry, thinking of the past, feeling rejected and any other things or people that you are constantly meditating on you are probably tied to those things. The Lord is wanting all His children free so that they can give Him all of themselves. Spending time with Him and being intimate with Him is where He really talks to you. Do not be to busy that you cannot give Him time. That is where He reveals the deeper things of Him.

AS I POST THIS ARTICLE I CAN SAY I KNOW WHAT IT WAS TO BE BITTER, ANGRY, THINKING OF MY PAST. ALL BECAUSE I WAS STILL TIED TO MY FIRST MARRIAGE. GLORY TO GOD I CAN SHOUT HALLELUJAH BECUASE I AM FREE. WHETHER YOU ARE SINGLE, MARRIED,SEPERATED OR DIVORCED WE ALL HAVE A STORY TO TELL.

I found this on-line off a site called Bibleoutlines.com and thought everyone would enjoy it. It lists reasons, but also biblical responses...I loved it..! Enjoy...



“Top Ten” - Society’s reasons to divorce your spouse

Move over David Letterman, here are society’s “Top Ten” reasons to separate what God has joined together.

When Jesus was grilled by the religious leaders regarding his position on the controversial subject of legitimate reasons for divorce, He left no wiggle room for humanistic rationalizations: “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” It is a clear sign of the breakdown of society when the fundamental building block of marriage is discarded so easily with no shame or remorse. Hawthorne’s great classic, The Scarlet Letter would not resonate with readers today because adultery hardly causes anyone to raise their eyebrows.

To try to bring some focus to the absurdity of today’s culture of “Throw away love” and broken marriage covenants, I thought it would be revealing to expose society’s “Top Ten” reasons for divorce:

10. There is really nothing to separate because despite our long-term sexual relationship we never formally entered the covenant bond of marriage. What we enjoyed was just a long-term “shacking up” together. Let’s get rid of the problem by elevating fornication to the level of a legitimate relationship without the bondage of any obligations or commitment. How about this for a book title: Shacking Up - The Smart Girl’s Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned. I guess someone forgot to read the book of Proverbs!

9. “Oops, I made a stupid mistake” - reducing divorce to something akin to taking a mulligan on the golf course. In other words, “Let’s just have a “do-over.” Let’s annul things and pretend the marriage never happened. That brings to mind Britney Spears’ lightning quick annulment. Marriage was never intended to be a “Try it and see if you like it” option.

8. “The Pressure is just too great” - Could be talking about Mental, Physical, or Emotional Abuse . . . Could be talking about Financial Pressure . . . Could be talking about other External Pressures (like relationships in the extended family, etc.). The picture here is of pent-up steam seeking its release. Not much can be said here other than that God’s grace is sufficient if we will only humble ourselves and seek our rest and peace in Him.

7. “Unfaithfulness on the part of my spouse” - Here most Christian counselors and evangelical churches make an allowance for some type of “legitimate” biblical loophole. Without trying to prove the point here, I would just say that the disciples understood the words of Christ to be absolute: “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” (Matthew 19:10) It does seem odd to me that someone who drives his/her spouse to the point of seeking satisfaction elsewhere would therefore be released from the marriage bond that would otherwise limit his/her freedom. (I am not saying that adultery is always the fault of the other spouse … far from it.)

6. “Our sexual relationship is no longer meeting my needs” - Any time we pervert God’s creation into a man-centered universe instead of a God-centered universe we arrive at faulty conclusions.

5. “We are no longer in love so it would be a sham to continue in the relationship. We need to be honest with our true feelings.” Once we understand “love” to be primarily an “action” taken to meet the needs of another rather than a “feeling” intended for personal fulfillment … this excuse melts away.

4. “He/She is not the person I married.” I either didn’t really know my spouse or could not have anticipated this change of character.

3. “He/She is unfortunately still the person I married.” I thought I could change my spouse, but I was wrong. People warned me that WYSIWYG … but I thought I could reform him/her.

2. “Irreconcileable differences” - The beauty of this rationalization is that you don’t have to be pinned down to any specifics. The root problem comes down to an unwillingness to “bear with all things” and to extend forgiveness and acceptance.

1. The reason that takes the cake and inspired this column was the quote in the Washington Times regarding the reported breakup between Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell after 21 years of romantic liaison: The purported explanation: the relationship has “lost its zip” lately. That was a new one for me! How selfish is that?

The sad reality is that many Christians blindly congratulate themselves on not violating this basic command of Christ regarding relationships while missing the heart of God on the necessity for inward moral purity and loyalty in marriage. Whenever Christ interpreted the law of God, He focused on the higher standard of heart obedience rather than on the legalistic aspect of external conformity. But make no mistake, “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Posted by: Paul Apple

SOME GULDELINES THE SINGLE MAN CAN FOLLOW..

THIS IS JUST SUGGESTIONS...IF YOU HAVE ANY MORE PLEASE FEEL FREE TO ADD THEM.. ALL IS WELCOME TO ADD ON MORE..

THANKS.. LADIES.. DONT BEAT ME UP.. LOL... AND MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL... MEN... MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A GOOD JOB.. HEY A JOB... LOL.. YOU ARE THE POTENTIAL HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD.. WE CAN'T EAT OODLES AND NOODLES THE REST OF OUR LIVES... PROVIDER REMEMBER.. LOL AND DON'T EXPECT US TO ALLOW YOU TO BE THE HEAD IF YOUR GAMBLING OR DRINKING ALL THE MONEY AWAY... LOL... (JOKING A LITTLE ) LOL... THATS WHERE PROBLEMS COME IN... I COULD GO ON FOR DAYS.. THATS ANOTHER POST.. LOL. HERE GO'S...


1. WHEN U ASK HER TO GO TO DINNER... WATCH WHAT SHE IS WEARING.. IF ITS TO PROVACATIVE.. ITS A SIGN...


2. ONCE AT DINNER... LOOK HER RIGHT IN THE FACE AND TELL HER ABOUT YOUR JESUS... DONT HESITATE TO LET HER KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND NO COMPROMISE ABOUT IT.. HE IS FIRST IN YOUR LIFE. BEFORE ANYONE... IF SHE'S LIKE I GOTTA COME FIRST.. U ALREADY KNOW...

3. IF SHE DOES NOT SAY HER GRACE BEFORE THE MEAL ITS A SIGN... THIS IS THE FIRST IMPRESSION... DON'T PUT DOWN JESUS TO SCORE A WOMAN... IF SHE CAN'T GET DOWN WITH THE FACT U LOVE GOD... DON'T GO ANY FURTHER.. THIS IS A POTENTIAL CANDIDATE TO HAVE YOUR CHILDREN...BE AROUND YOUR MOTHER... IF YOU HAVE KIDS THEM AS WELL ... AND YOUR FAMILY... CHURCH.. ECT...


4. ASK HER PLENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT HER PAST... IF SHE HAS A LOT OF BAGGAGE.. ITS UP TO YOU TO DECIDE IF YOUR GONNA TRY TO WORK WITH HER, OR IF ITS TO MUCH FOR YOU TO HANDLE.. WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE.. U NEED TO DO IT EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP...(BUT REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE SHE HAS BAGGAGE, DOES NOT MEAN U HAVE TO DISMISS HER) WE ALL HAVE HAD SOME HARD TIMES... JUST DONT BE THE DUMPING GROUND FOR HER... TAKE THIS HINT.. IF EVERY SINGLE RELATIONSHIP THAT WENT BAD- IF SHE ALWAYS SAYING ITS HIM AND NEVER TAKES ANY BLAME... WATCH OUT FOR THAT...


5. DONT LEAD HER ON IN ANY WAY... YOU DONT WANT HER TO START FEELING SOME TYPE OF WAY ABOUT YOU... LET YOUR YEA BE YEA AND YOUR NEA BE NEA... I DONT CARE HOW HOT SHE IS... HOT IS WHAT YOUR GONNA GET IF YOU ALLOW HER TO TEMPT U... (HELL) LOL.. HEY SHE CUTE BUT SHE AINT THAT CUTE... BETTA BE YOUR MOTTO...

6. FIND OUT IF SHE IS A GOSSIPER... IF SHE IS ALWAYS ON THE PHONE WITH HER GIRLFRIENDS.. IF SHE TELLS THEM EVERYTHING THAT GOES ON WITH U- HER-AND ALL... ( THAT TELLS U IF SHE IS ALWAYS GONNA BE ON THE PHONE WHEN U COME HOME FROM WORK) IF YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP. MARRIED.. U KNOW... LOL

7. FIND OUT HOW SHE HANDLES SITUATIONS..(REJECTION) IF SHE GOES AFTER ALL THAT PERSON OWNS, IS SHE LEVEL HEADED, QUICK TEMPERED U DON'T NEED NO CRAZY FEMALE COMMING AFTER YOU, YOUR FAMILY,BABY MOMMA ECT... LOL BECAUSE YOU TOLD HER U CANT BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO IS TRYING TO HAVE YOU SIN.. REMEMBER, U HAVE TO BE MARRIED FIRST TO ENDULDGE IN ANYTHING ( ALL KINDS OF ANYTHING)LOL...

8. KEEP IN MIND THAT SHE IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY.. IF SHE FEELS SHE CANT HANDLE THE FACT THAT YOU LOVE GOD, AND U WILL NOT CHANGE... LET HER GO... DONT FEEL BAD AND DONT BE ASHAMED... ITS HER LOST AND YOU DONT HAVE TO RUN AFTER NO WOMEN.. IF SHE WAS SENT TO YOU FROM GOD.. SHE WILL BE WITH YOU AND ON THE SAME LEVEL.. OR TRYING AND WILLING TO GET THERE WITH YOU... DONT FEEL NO PRESSURE TO DO NOTHING TO KEEP HER...(NOTHING UNGODLY)THAT IS...

9. KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOUR SELF... AND DONT ALLOW HER TO HIT YOU... AT THE FIRST SIGN OF THIS.. RUN FOR THE HILLS...YOU AINT HER PROPERTY EITHER... THE FIRST SIGN OF HER BEING JEALOUS..DONT THINK ITS CUTE... WHEN U START YOUR MINISTRY YOUR GONNA HAVE TO BE AROUND ALL KINDS OF PEOPLE... SHE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO HAVE HER ESTEEM HIGH ENOUGH TO KNOW... (AND U BETTA NOT BE CHEATING AND MAKING HER THINK ITS NOTHING GONG ON)LOL LOL

10.DONT RUSH IN AND DONT LEAD ON... IF YOU HAVE PROBLEMS WITH SHOWING EMOTION LET HER KNOW...ALLOW HER TO DECIDE IF SHE CAN ADJUST TO YOU... OR IF ITS TO MUCH.. MOST WOMEN I KNOW... NEED TO BE HELD AND NEED COMMUNICATION.. IF YOUR HAVING PROBLEMS WITH THOSE AREAS... TALK IT OVER... AND KNOW WHEN ITS TIME TO WALK AWAY... AND WHEN ITS TIME TO STAY AND TRY... BUT PLEASE DONT RUSH INTO MARRIAGE... FOR FEAR OF LOOSING HER... YOU WILL ONLY REGRET IT LATER... OR RESENT HER...OR CHEAT ON HER... MAKE SURE SHE IS THE ONE U WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH... FAULTS AND ALL...


READ IN THIS GROUP.. I WISH SOMEONE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME THIS BEFORE I GOT MARRIED.... IT WILL HELP U AS WELL... GOD BLESS.. SMILES

HERE ARE A COUPLE OF GUIDELINES THAT THE SINGLE WOMAN CAN USE.. IT'S ONLY SUGGESTIONS.. IF ANY ONE HAS ANYTHING TO ADD PLEASE DO SO.. YOUR RESPONSE IS GREATLY APPRECIATED.. OK.. HERE GO'S...


1. BEFORE YOU EVEN THINK OF ACCEPTING AN INVITATION TO DINNER... FIND OUT HIS BELIEF'S IF HE IS NOT ON THE SAME PAGE AS YOU.WHY EVEN START SOMETHING...

LET HIM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE GOD.. AND IF HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH THE WAY YOU LOVE YOUR JESUS.. IF HE LOOKS ANY KINDA WAY FUNNY AT YOU... ITS A SIGN...


2. ONCE ACCEPTING THAT DINNER INVITE...ESTABLISH THAT IT IS ONLY DINNER.. DONT ALLOW HIM TO THINK IT'S A DATE.. THAT WAY HE WON'T BE EXPECTING ANYTHING LATER.. (IT BETTER ONLY BE DINNER LOL)


3. WHILE AT DINNER..OPEN UP WITH SAYING GRACE... IF HE IS OK WITH THAT.. ITS A PLUS.. BUT IT AINT ALL... TRY TO FIND OUT AS MUCH ABOUT HIM AS POSSIBLE. IF HE FEELS LIKE YOUR ASKING TO MUCH TOO QUICK. SOMETHING IS PROPABLY WRONG.. (WOULD'NT YOU WANT SOMEONE TO KNOW IF ALL IS WELL WITH U) IF HE DON'T ASK U QUESTIONS... I WOULD WONDER ...


4. FIND OUT HOW HE TREATS HIS MOTHER..( YOU CAN TELL A LOT OF HOW HE IS GONNA TREAT YOU)...


5. FIND OUT IF HE HAS SISTERS HOW THEY GET ALONG.. IF HE CALLS THEM OUT OF THEIR NAMES.. THATS A SIGN OF HOW HE WILL THINK OF YOU... IF YALL GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND U GET UPSET WITH EACHOTHER..FIND OUT IF HE IS QUICK TEMPERED... HOW HE HANDLES THINGS... THIS MAN IS THE POTENTIAL FATHER TO YOUR CHILDREN... NEED I SAY MORE....


6. IF HE MAKES IT TO A SECOND DINNER...LOL... CONTINUE TO ASK QUESTIONS.. YOU NEED TO FIND OUT AS MUCH ABOUT HIM WHILE ITS STILL EARLY .. BEFORE YOU START TO GET FEELINGS FOR HIM.. ONCE THE FEELINGS ARE THERE.. YOU WILL START TO OVER LOOK THINGS AND PASS THEM OFF AS..(OHH WE JUST STARTING TO DATE. ITS GONNA CHANGE.) YEA RIGHT. AFTER HE START GOING UPSIDE YO HEAD....LOL.

7. WHICH BRINGS ME TO THIS POINT.. ANY SIGN OF JEALOUSY... GET OUT.. STAY OUT.. NEVA LOOK BACK... IT CAN LEAD TO HIM GOING UPSIDE YO HEAD.. AND YO KIDS HEAD.. NOW ADAYS.. EVEN YO MAMA'S HEAD.. LOL<